Tips to Improving a Strained Marriage

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Modern family life is bogged down with a lot of pressure from the fast life and the lack of quality time that families ought to be spending together to create strong bonds. The honeymoon phase is quickly short-lived. Couples now have to face real-life situations and learn how to live with one another, accepting each other’s weaknesses and strengths.  Couples that last the longest manage to stay together for about seven years before starting to lose their connection. It takes a lot of effort to keep the family bonds together, hence the need to begin improving your marriage from the beginning. If you are already in a strained marriage, here are a few tips to improve that marriage.

Learn How to Manage Your Arguments

Arguments will always be there in a marriage. They are inevitable. What you need to do is to learn how to exit an argument or to repair it before it spirals out of control. You can incorporate humor or find a common ground instead of taking hard stances. If you do that, you make your spouse feel respected and appreciated. You also water down the argument and find a win-win situation.

Focus on the Positive Side

Life can be hard, yes, but there are some positives regardless. Couples in strained marriages tend to focus more on the negatives than on the positives. If, as a couple, you could just start focusing your attention on the positive scenarios in your marriage, you will soon notice an improvement in your relationship. You can try and compliment your spouse, or encourage them to improve on their weaknesses instead of always criticizing them. The more positive you are in your marriage, the less it becomes strained.

Improve Your Communication

There are times when couples fall apart due to a lack of quality and consistent communication. Communication in a marriage does not have to always be about the seemingly important things in life. It is those small everyday things that matter. If you can talk about your daily occurrences and encourage one another to take one day at a time, you will be drawn in and have a better and stronger connection.

Accept Some Influence from Your Partner

Every relationship requires some form of balance and accommodation. In most marriages, men are the dominant party and dictate what is to happen in the marriage. Some women may feel drained with such kind of dominance and try seeking their freedom outside the marriage. As a man, you can try to allow some form of democracy and freedom even as you guide your family. It also applies to women who have a dominant character. Just allow your partner’s influence once in a while to make them feel respected and appreciated.

Do Activities Together

Couples that walk together stay longer together. Identify activities you can do together. You can go for morning or evening walks, go visit parks sometimes, go to the gym together and also have as much sex as possible. These activities create strong bonds, enhance communication and enable you to learn about one another since people change with time. You can easily catch an arising conflict and solve it while in such activities. 

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