How to Cope When the Kids Go To College

Are you wondering what to do when the kids go off to college? When your baby, or babies are all grown up and ready to leave home, it can be a very bittersweet time. Your feelings include pride because you raised a fine young adult, excitement for the next chapter in their life but you’re also going to be feeling a little nervous about how you’re going to cope with an empty nest. You’re going to be struggling with the whole concept of letting go, at the same time as a little piece of you is actually looking forward to a kid-free home.

You’ll be pleased to learn such feelings are not unusual, and there are ways you can manage such a life-changing transition. Here are some tips to help you cope.

Be Prepared for a Bumpy Ride

Empty nest syndrome may not be a clinical diagnosis, but it is real. You might experience feelings of sadness, even grief. Understanding that you’re in for a bumpy ride, at least for a few months makes you more equipped to deal with it. It’s perfectly normal to have conflicting feelings about your child leaving home and you shouldn’t feel bad about it. Enjoy the rollercoaster ride that might include sadness, nostalgia, excitement, nervousness and hopefulness, either individually or all at the same time.

Embrace Your Freedom

You’ve made plenty of sacrifices over the years and now it’s time for you to reclaim your freedom and do all those things you’ve been meaning to do. When you’re a full-time parent, your children come first, and you put all your dreams and desires on the back burner. You might have longed to volunteer at your local animal shelter but didn’t have the time. Now you have, so don’t delay and get in touch with them today. Perhaps a new career is in order, that ties in your hobby. This could be as a chef, or fitness instructor, in which case you could find out about courses near where you live. For those in the south of England, personal training qualifications Brighton may be an option for you. Learn how to paint or play a musical instrument, train for the next London marathon, or teach English online. All of these and more can be done now you’ve got no responsibilities.

Reconnect with Your Partner

When you’re looking after children together your relationship often takes second place. You’ve also had to weather lots of ups and downs over the years. This is a new phase in your relationship, and you should be embracing it. All those things you used to do as a couple can now be enjoyed again. It might take a little getting used to, but it’ll be worth it in the long run. Plan a weekend away, organize regular date nights, start a home improvement project together, get together with friends or learn something new as a couple.

Make New Friends

Do you know any other parents who are going through the same transition as you? Knowing what empty nest syndrome is and experiencing it yourself means you’ll be able to spot parents in a similar situation from a mile off. Talking to other people who are going through the same as you can be very helpful. People who have found themselves in the same boat can be fountains of knowledge and will be more than happy to share their coping suggestions and offer encouragement.

Don’t be Afraid to Visit

Just because your son or daughter has left home, doesn’t mean you can’t go to visit, although turning up unannounced probably won’t be appreciated. There may be family weekends or other events being held at the university you can go along to. It can be a fun way to get together, but it also gives you the opportunity to get a look into their new world and check that they’re taking good care of themselves.

Be Supportive

You might be feeling anxious about their impending departure but don’t project it onto them. They’ve got enough on their minds without having to worry about leaving their parents behind. Your need to be needed should come second to their need to find their own way. Let them figure out how they want to arrange their room, what they want to spend their allowance on. In other words, this is their moment so let them enjoy it to the full.

Of course you’re going to worry but try not to do it too much and don’t let it show. You might be tempted to call them up every day but give them some space. Let them know you’ll always be there when you’re needed and expect the odd phone call and quick hang ups. If you don’t hear from them for weeks at a time there’s nothing wrong with getting in touch, but give them the opportunity to call first.   

Plan for Their Inevitable Return

It’s highly likely your offspring won’t have left home for good, with no intention of ever returning. They might decide to come home for weekends or during the term breaks. Be prepared for there to be a new dynamic and you’ll have to consider renegotiating the house rules. They’re going to feel more like an adult and will expect you to treat them as one. Even though they might have brought their washing home for you to do and still expect you to feed them. You have to work things out together and come to an amicable arrangement so their visits can remain stress free.

Now you understand a little bit more about empty nest syndrome and how to cope with it. That’s not going to stop your feelings or make your home feel any less empty, but it helps to realize that you’re not alone and this is just another parenting milestone you’ve got to work through. You’ve already survived plenty of those and there may be more to come. Remember that in time you’ll come to accept your current situation and some of the suggestions are going to help you get through it and come out the other side. You never know, you might actually enjoy your newfound freedom and enjoy this new chapter in your life.

Lenny, May 23rd Pet of the Week!

Lenny was surprised in the middle of his country two-step lesson by our roving photographer. Like many talented but humble creatures, the little 3-year-old Chihuahua was very shy when he was brought in as a stray. But he quickly warmed up to the volunteers and made a lot of canine friends as well. Come adopt him before he gets them all involved in line dancing! Meet Lenny at the P. D. Pitchford Companion Animal Village, 7700 East Spring St., (562) 570-PETS. Ask for ID#A625137.

(The usual suspects contributed to this rescue)

Credit: Courtesy of the P.D. Pitchford Companion Animal Village.

Fun For The Fur Babies Too with pediped new pediPets Line of Pet Collars and Leashes

Award-winning children’s footwear brand pediped® is excited to announce the release of its new pediPets line of pet collars and leashes. Featuring exclusive materials and patterns designed to perfectly coordinate with newly released pediped® shoe styles for spring and summer 2019, cherished family pets can now coordinate with their best friends.

“Our office is filled with pet lovers…we wanted to create a collection of pet products to keep our pets as stylish and comfortable as the children we design our namesake shoes to serve,” remarked Jenevieve Froncek, VP of Product Development and Design at pediped®.

Designed with high quality leather and expert craftsmanship, the pediPets line of collars and leashes provides superior comfort and quality for pets. Collars are available in three styles, each offered in sizes small, medium, and large to accommodate nearly any pet.  Leashes are available in three styles, all in a standard 5 foot length, as well to complete your pet’s ensemble.     

Styles include Floral, Robot, and Chocolate. Floral features adorable pastel blooms of spring and summer on a crisp white background for a distinctly feminine look. Robot is another wildly imaginative style with hand-drawn robots in navy and grey that is sure to delight pets, children, and adults alike. For a more subtle, classic look, pediped® offers Chocolate in a rich deep brown leather with a hint of pale blue piping. All pediPets products coordinate seamlessly with pediped® shoe styles.

Whether a child is crawling, learning to walk, or now running, pediped® has a stylish shoe that fits comfortably and ensures healthy foot development. Shoes that match the pediPets line of pet products can also be found on www.pediped.com.

The pediped® pediPets product line is now available for purchase online at www.pediped.com and in the pediped® Boutique retail store in Las Vegas, NV.

Credit: pediped. Images were also provided.

Disney On Ice presents Mickey’s Search Party is Coming to SoCal Bringing the Magic Closer to Fans than Ever Before!

Create unforgettable memories and become part of the story when Disney On Ice presents Mickey’s Search Partycomes to Southern California this holiday season!  This brand-new immersive ice skating experience brings the magic closer to fans than ever before through engaging elements that take place on the ice, in the air and in the seats.  An exciting participatory adventure delivering compelling storytelling through multi-leveled production numbers that immerse fans into the fantastic worlds of Disney-Pixar’s Coco, Frozen, Moana, Beauty and the Beast, Aladdin, Toy Story and The Little Mermaid, will be skating into the Southland playing L.A, Anaheim, Long Beach and Ontario from December 12th – January 5th!

  • Sign up today to become a Disney On Ice Preferred Guest at www.DisneyOnIce.com to get exclusive access to the advance pre-sale offer code to purchase tickets starting today to get the best seats available before tickets go on-sale to the general public on May 28th.

Embark on a quest with Mickey Mouse and pals as they follow Captain Hook’s treasure map for clues to find Tinker Bell after he attempts to capture her magic.  Journey across the Marigold Bridge with Miguel from Disney-Pixar’s Coco into the magnificent and mystical Land of the Dead and discover a vibrantly colorful performance with skeletons atop sway poles dancing over the audience in a beautiful cultural celebration of family.  Travel to the wintry world of Arendelle and sing along with Elsa as video projection creates a kaleidoscope of crystals to help build her ice palace.  Witness Belle lift into the sky as the enchanted chandelier comes to life high over the ice for onlookers seated above and below.  Board the Jolly Roger and laugh hysterically as the hilarious pirates flip, tumble, and twist on air tracks, stilts and more in an effort to showcase their talents for Captain Hook.  Sail away with Moana on her daring voyage across the ocean and bravely encounter the fiery wrath of Te Ka.   And make memories with your whole family during Aladdin, Toy Story and The Little Mermaid as the search party becomes an all-out magical celebration!

Join this magical search and help look for clues to unlock an epic journey when Disney On Ice presents Mickey’s Search Party delivers an unforgettable experience with your family!

L O S   A N G E L E S

WHEN: Thursday, December 12 – Sunday, December 15

o        Thursday, December 12   7:30 PM

o        Friday, December 13                        7:30 PM

o        Saturday, December 14    11:00 AM, 3:00 PM & 7:00 PM

o        Sunday, December 15                       11:00 AM, 3:00 PM & 7:00 PM

WHERE:             STAPLES Center – 1111 South Figueroa Street, Los Angeles, CA 90015

TICKETS:           Ticket prices start at $25!

                              Discount Opening Night tickets available for as low as $16 each on select seating (not valid for premium VIP/Front Row seating) 

Tickets available for purchase online at AXS.com, charge by phone at 888-9AXS-TIX or in-person at the venue Box Office.             *prices subject to change; additional venue/ticketing fees may apply

A N A H E I M

WHEN: Thursday, December 19 – Sunday, December 23

o        Thursday, December 19   7:00 PM

o        Friday, December 20                        11:00 AM & 7:00 PM    

o        Saturday, December 21    11:00 AM, 3:00 PM & 7:00 PM

o        Sunday, December 22                       11:00 AM, 3:00 PM & 7:00 PM

o        Monday, December 23                     11:00 AM & 7:00 PM

WHERE:           Honda Center – 2695 E. Katella Avenue, Anaheim, CA 92806

TICKETS:           Ticket prices start at $25!

                              Discount Opening Night tickets available for as low as $16 each on select seating (not valid for premium VIP/Front Row seating) 

Tickets available for purchase online at Ticketmaster.com or in-person at the venue Box Office.                                                                  *prices subject to change; additional venue/ticketing fees may apply

L O N G   B E A C H

WHEN: Thursday, December 26 – Monday, December 30

  • Thursday, December 26           7:00 PM
  • Friday, December 27                  3:00 PM & 7:00 PM

o        Saturday, December 28    11:00 AM, 3:00 PM & 7:00 PM

  • Sunday, December 29                11:00 AM, 3:00 PM & 7:00 PM
  • Monday, December 30                             7:00 PM             

WHERE:             Long Beach Arena – 300 E. Ocean Blvd, Long Beach, CA 90802

TICKETS:           Ticket prices start at $25!

                              Discount Opening Night tickets available for as low as $16 each on select seating (not valid for premium VIP/Front Row seating) 

Tickets available for purchase online at Ticketmaster.com or in-person at the venue Box Office.                                                                   *prices subject to change; additional venue/ticketing fees may apply

O N T A R I O

WHEN: Wednesday, January 1 – Sunday, January 5

  • Wednesday, January 1                              7:00 PM
  • Thursday, January 2                   7:00 PM
  • Friday, January 3                         7:00 PM

o        Saturday, January 4                           11:00 AM, 3:00 PM & 7:00 PM

o        Sunday, January 5                              11:00 AM, 3:00 PM & 7:00 PM

WHERE:             Citizens Business Bank Arena – 4000 Ontario Center Parkway, Ontario, CA 91764

TICKETS:           Ticket prices start at $25!

                              Discount Opening Night tickets available for as low as $16 each on select seating (not valid for premium VIP/Front Row seating) 

 Tickets available for purchase online at Ticketmaster.com or in-person at the venue Box Office.    *prices subject to change; additional venue/ticketing fees may apply.

Credit:  Feld Entertainment.

Kids Night on Broadway Offer Announced for CHARLIE & THE CHOCOLATE FACTORY at Segerstrom Center, 5/28

Introduce your children to the wonder and thrill of live theater: Buy one opening night ticket at full price – receive one child’s ticket free. 

May 28, 2019 Segerstrom Hall
Tickets on sale now
Segerstrom Center for the Arts has a special Kids Night on Broadway for the opening night of Roald Dahl’s CHARLIE AND THE CHOCOLATE FACTORY on Tuesday, May 28 at 7:30 p.m. With the purchase of one full-price ticket, parents can receive a second ticket FREE for children. Ticket prices start at $29. Use code OOMPA when purchasing. Children and families are also encouraged to arrive early and enjoy pre-show activities in the Segerstrom Hall lobby beginning at 6:00 p.m., including coloring stations, crafts, activities, photo opportunities and more!
Roald Dahl’s CHARLIE AND THE CHOCOLATE FACTORY tells the story of Willy Wonka, world famous inventor of the Everlasting Gobstopper, who has just made an astonishing announcement. His marvelous—and mysterious—factory is opening its gates…to a lucky few. That includes young Charlie Bucket, whose life definitely needs sweetening. He and four other golden ticket winners will embark on a mesmerizing, life-changing journey through Wonka’s world of pure imagination. Get ready for Oompa-Loompas, incredible inventions, the great glass elevator, and more, more, more at this everlasting showstopper!

Single tickets to Roald Dahl’s CHARLIE AND THE CHOCOLATE FACTORY start at $29 and are on sale now at SCFTA.org, by calling (714) 556-2787 and at the Box Office at 600 Town Center Drive in Costa Mesa. For inquiries about group ticket savings for 10 or more, please call the Group Services office at (714) 755-0236. The 2:00 p.m. performance on Saturday, June 8 will include audio description, open captioning and sign-language interpretation. The Center offers many services for patrons with disabilities including removable wheelchair locations, binoculars and assistive listening devices. To learn more visit SCFTA.org/accessibilityinformation.   

Credit: SCFTA.org

Kid-Friendly DIY Household Projects You Can Do in a Weekend

Spring is here, the weather is warming up nicely and it is the perfect time to tackle that To-Do List of DIY household projects that you have had on your radar for awhile.

If you are thinking “I’m a hard working Dad — why should my kids miss out on all of this DIY fun?”, you are completely correct. By all means, grab your kiddos, let them know that you want and need their help, and put them to work on as many of these projects as you can.

Even fairly young kids can help with a number of projects around the house — both indoors and outdoors. If you need some inspiration to get going, please consider the following ideas:

Create a Raised Veggie Garden

If you have always wanted to try growing your own produce, you and your kids can spend a weekend building a raised vegetable garden. As This Old House notes, it is a project that kids as young as 6 can help tackle; start by putting together a framer of rot-resistant lumber that will hold the soil in place, and make it tall enough for everyone to reach easily. Once you build the raised garden, head to a local gardening store and let the kids choose what types of veggies they want to grow — you can buy either seedlings or seeds. As a major bonus, your kids may start eating more vegetables if they grow them on their own, and they will also learn about responsibility as they help water and care for the plants.

Put Up a Wire-Free Home Security System

Another project that your tweens and teens can help with is installing a new wire-free home security camera system. Sit down with your kiddos and discuss the details of the features that these cameras have, and teach them about the importance of safety. While you don’t want to scare them, you can educate them about why you want to have a home security system. In addition, let them know that there are also fun aspects to having home security camera systems; for example, to record fun family moments and monitor the weather. To make this DIY project as easy as you can, you may want to select a wire-free camera; this way, you can install them wherever you wish. Once the cameras arrive, you and your kids can spend a weekend deciding where they should go and installing them around your home.

Upgrade a Bathroom or Powder Room

That upstairs bathroom with its old fixtures and outdated vanity is ready for a remodel. As Very Anxious Mommy notes, you can have your kids help clean the bathroom from top to bottom, and then assist you in picking out new flooring, paint colors, vanity, appliances and whatever else the bathroom needs. If this is a bathroom that your kids use quite a bit, they can give their input on what type of “theme” they may want — like an ocean-life look — and then you can work together to choose paint and accessories. Depending on the ages of your kids, they can certainly help you remove everything from the space and then paint it. Older kids can also help you take the old vanity to the curb for pickup, hang new mirrors and install towel racks.

Have Fun Working Together

In addition to teaching your kids the value of hard work, it’s always great to have some solid Dad-kiddo time. By making your children part of your DIY projects, you can do just that, and end up improving your home at the same time.

How to Teach Your Kids About Sustainability

The effects of global warming are starting to become apparent across the globe. We are seeing an endless procession of record-breaking years with many of the hottest temperatures on record now occurring in the last decade. With the impacts of climate change now becoming manifest, many adults are factoring the future state of the planet into their decision of whether to have children or not.

Ensuring that the planet remains safe and habitable for future generations is a concern for all of us. While it can often feel as if climate change is a runaway problem that we now have no hope of solving, it is, in fact, something that all of us can make a contribution towards fixing. Teaching our children about the importance of sustainability and showing them how they can contribute to a better environment is one way we can help.

Teach Them Why We Recycle

Teaching your kids what recycling is is important, but showing them why we recycle is what will really make the lesson stick. Recycling is important because it enables us to reuse materials. The Earth’s resources are limited and one day, they will run out. This is a concept that even young children can understand. Explain to them that it is by recycling what we can, that we can make the planet’s resources last long into the future.

Teach Them Sustainable Shopping

When you do your weekly grocery shop, bring the kids along and show them how to choose recyclable products. Show them from an early age that the source of products and their environmental impact is a key concern when deciding what to buy. This is also an opportunity to show them that it is sometimes worth paying a bit more money for a product with a smaller environmental footprint.

Make it Interactive

Any parent who wants their children to understand the importance of sustainability needs to recycle. Recycling is one of the most effective things that any of us can do on an individual level in order to make a real difference to the state of the planet as a whole. Taking your kids with you to the recycling center isn’t just a great way of making recycling more interactive, it also shows them that there are other people who care about the planet as well.

Defeatism is all too common in today’s world. Many people reason that climate change is inevitable and therefore it isn’t worth taking action. However, it is the sum of small individual contributions that will make the biggest change to our battle with climate change. Show your children how to separate out recyclable materials, how to identify them and how to properly dispose of them.

Show Them the Results

Living in a more sustainable household inevitably means that you will be able to save money. Being more sustainable means reusing what you can, when you can. Another important component of sustainability is energy conservation. Teach your children why switching appliances off when they aren’t using them is important. Not only is it more environmentally friendly, but it will also save you money on your utility bills.

Make a note of the savings you make from your sustainable living practices and use this money to reward your kids for their efforts. Why not let them pick out some new plants and flowers for your yard? Show your kids that plants can be useful sources of food and other useful materials. Gardens are an important part of sustainability and should also be a fun place for children to learn about ecology and the environment in general.

Teaching children about sustainability has never been more important. Fortunately, there are plenty of ways that you can teach your kids about sustainability in a way that is fun, exciting and likely to stay with them.

The World’s First Portable, Full-Size Splash Pad for Your Home is Here: Meet Splash2o


Built by a parent team turned entrepreneurs, Splash2o launches a portable, complete splash pad system for hours of backyard summer fun.

When David and Carol Ertur became parents, they started taking their young children to a nearby splash park, quickly realizing how much effort was spent trying to get kids out of the house just to cool off. Easy access to a pool or the beach isn’t an option for many families. There had to be a way to make something where our kids could have the same level of outdoor enjoyment without having to leave the house.

Enter Splash2o. Launching today on Indiegogo and starting at $249 for early pre-orders. Splash2o’s Aqua-Tower is the world’s first portable at-home splash pad, with an industrial design built to rival the splash pads at public parks. Splash2o gives families (finally!) an affordable, versatile and long-lasting solution for safe and convenient outdoor water fun at home.

The Highlights:

  1. With a flexible and collapsible design, Splash2o features a simple click to connect setup and folds down quickly for storage, providing a hassle-free experience for parents and caregivers.
  2. Customizable water play: Choose from up to eight Aqua-Stations for a customized play experience that make up the Aqua-Tower system, including bucket pouring, shower stream, a misting station, several fun sprinkler designs and more.
  3. Accommodates kids of all ages: the Aqua-Tower has a spacious footprint (up to 25’ spray zone) and height options (from 3’ to 6’), allowing kids of all sizes to enjoy the water fun.

Splash2o founder David Ertur, an inventor and engineer with 7 issued patents, tried looking for a high-quality splash pad for his home and found that outdoor water toys fell into two basic categories: cheaper plastic or pricey inflatables both of which break easily, and commercial grade at-home splash pads that cost thousands of dollars.

“Splash2o is that middle ground – I wanted to design a splash pad that had many similar elements to what you’d find at a public park but could easily be setup in your backyard. The Aqua-Tower is super simple to install and only requires a garden hose to power. It is designed to grow with your family with custom Aqua-Stations for a range of ages – I know you’ll have (and use!) your Aqua-Tower for years and years.”

With easily interchangeable Aqua-Stations and a variety of setups, Splash2o can be configured to entertain and occupy kids of any age and allow parents to avoid the hassle of packing bags and heading out to public parks to stay cool. Splash2o has a 9’x9’ footprint and easily folds up to a 2’x2’ footprint, making it an affordable and space-friendly choice for any outdoor family backyard spot.

Splash2o will be available for pre-order on Indiegogo until June 19, 2019, with a limited number of early bird backers getting almost 60% off retail value. For educational and daycare facilities who are interested in bulk orders, there is a commercial pack backer level for $1,745. Once the campaign is complete, David and team will start the production process to work to get each first-round backer their Aqua-Tower in early 2020. Retail price for the world’s first portable at-home splash pad starts at $599.

To learn more about Splash2o products and the founders, visit the Indiegogo campaign page as well as their website.

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Avaden LLC